Think about the unthinkable. Don't mask the facts about rape with myths and stereotypes.
The Truth is...
- RAPE is an act of violence. It is an attempt to control and degrade using sex as a weapon.
- RAPE can happen to anyone children, students, wives, mothers, working women, grandmothers, the rich and poor, and boys and men.
- RAPISTS can be anyone classmates, co-workers, a neighbor or delivery person, ugly or attractive, outgoing or shy, often a friend or family member.
- RAPISTS rape again and again, until caught
Use Your Head
- Be alert! Walk with confidence and purpose.
- Be aware of your surroundings know who is out there and what is going on.
- Do not let alcohol or other drugs cloud your judgment.
- Trust your instincts. If a situation or place makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, leave!
Common Sense Indoors
- Make sure all doors (don't forget sliding glass doors) and windows have dead bolt locks, and use them! Install a peephole in the door. Keep entrances will lighted.
- Never open your door to strangers. Offer to make an emergency call while someone waits outside. Check the identification of any sales or service people before letting them in. Don't be embarrassed to phone for verification.
- Be wary of isolated spots apartment laundry rooms, underground garages, parking lots, and offices after business hours. Walk with a friend, co-worker, or security guard, particularly at night.
- Know your neighbors so you have someone to call or go to if you are scared.
- If you come home and see a door or window open or broken, do not go in. Call the police from a public phone or neighbor's phone.
Common Sense Outdoors
- Avoid walking or jogging alone, especially at night. Stay in well traveled, well lit areas.
- Be careful if anyone in a car asks you for directions if you answer, keep your distance from the car.
- Have your key ready before you reach the door home, car, or office.
- If you think you are being followed, change direction and head for the police department, open stores, restaurants, theaters, or a lighted house.
- Park in an area that will be well lit and well traveled when you return.
- Always lock your car when you get in and when you get out.
- Look around your car and in the back seat before you get in.
- If your car breaks down, lift the hood, lock the doors, and turn on the flashers. Use a Call Police banner or flares. If someone stops, roll the window down slightly and ask the person to call the police or a tow do not open the door to them.
- Do not hitchhike, ever. Do not pick up a hitchhiker.
If the unthinkable happens
How should you handle a rape attempt? It depends on your physical and emotional state, the situation, and the rapist's personality. There are no hard and fast, right or wrong, answers. Surviving is the goal.
- Try to escape. Scream. Be rude. Make noise to discourage your attacker from following.
- Talk, stall for time, and assess your options.
- If the rapist has a weapon, you may have no choice but to submit. Do whatever it takes to survive you may have children that need you alive.
- If you decide to fight back, you must be quick and effective. Target the eyes or groin.
- Report rape or any sexual assault to the police or rape crisis center. The sooner you tell, the greater the chances the rapist will be caught.
- Preserve all physical evidence. Do not shower, bathe, change clothes, douche, or throw any clothing away until the police or rape counselor say it's okay.
- Go immediately to a hospital emergency room or your own doctor for medical care.
- Get counseling to help deal with feelings of anger, helplessness, fear, and shame caused by the rape. It helps to talk to someone about the rape, whether it occurred last week, or years ago.
- Remember that rape is not your fault. Do not accept blame for being an innocent victim.
If someone you know has been raped...
- Believe him or her.
- Do not blame the victim.
- Offer support, patience, and compassion to help the rape victim work through the crisis, heal, and emerge a survivor.
Take a stand
- Ask a Neighborhood Watch group, school, employer, church, library, or civic group to organize a workshop on preventing rape. Make sure it addresses concerns of both men and women.
- Volunteer at a rape crisis center.
Crime Prevention Tips from:
National Crime Prevention Council
1700 K Street, NW, Second Floor
Washington, DC 2006-3817